When My Kids Grow Up..

Hello Faithful Readers! Yes, I know it has been a long while since I have blogged. I promise I have started many, and just did not finish them, or felt it was best not to share them at that time. And now this site did something new, to where I can’t post pics like I used to, so I gotta figure out what is up with that. Soooo.. School has started; all my kiddos are finding their groove, after a long and lazy summer. No Summer Vacation for us, just could not pull it off financially. Which leads me to my topic for today.. The Things I will do when my kids grow up and move out.. Sleep.. Yes, I will be able to sleep in, instead of getting up at 5am each day for cross country practice, basketball practice, meets, etc… And not worrying what time the kids are coming home, and if they are safe, and no more 1 am talks when the teen decides that is the best time to share.. Laundry.. (the real laundry people) with it just going be me and the hubby, I could actually get away with doing laundry once a wk, and maybe even just 3 loads, verses the laundry every other day, and about 14 loads a week. Clean House.. Yes I do make my kids help with cleaning, I am one of THOSE MOMS, and proud that my kids will move out knowing how to cook, clean, do laundry, sew, and iron. But I look forward to cleaning house and it staying that way. No reminders being yelled across the house to pick up shoes, socks, t-shirts, dog poo each day.. Mommy Mobile… Ohh I am dreaming of the day I get to buy me a cute little car, and not spend over 100 on gas each week. Vacations.. Trav and I want to do so much!! See the world, and we will finally be able to do just that, and it just be us.. Good Employee.. I will be able to go to work each day, and not have to go in late or call in because I have a sick kiddo tossing his or her cookies. I will finally be able to be the good employee that my hubby has been all these years.. Bathroom.. I will get to go pee, and shower, and get dressed, and put my make up on, and not be disturbed. And find things the way I left them, instead of asking my girls if they took my brush or tweezers etc.. Apparently we have an open door policy in my bathroom..lol Food.. I will be able to know there is always water and my cokes in the fridge, and that the box of popcorn is not empty, and that cereal box is full,.. Peace and Quiet.. No more name calling, and playing referee, and hearing shot gun and them running to the car, and no more watching these weird shows with horrible acting. Or the fighting over who got more Xbox time, or computer time, and who took the trash out last..I am thinking LMN channel all day long. Life sounds quite lovely, right?! But who am I kidding,. I am trying to convince myself that this is something to look forward to, but this year when I dropped my baby boys off for their Junior year, and my sugar bear for 7th grade. I realized my mommy days are going by way too fast, yes I will always be there mommy, but they wont need me so much when they move out and I am gonna miss my little people so very much. And life like it is right now, with laundry and messy house, empty food boxes, and playing referee and driving the big SUV that gulps up my gas, is what I love, and I am so blessed that God chose me to be their mommy.. And I would not change any of it for all the money and sleep in the world. So parents.. Treasure each day, even the rough ones.. They are more precious than you will ever know..

Facebook Diet...

So you may have not noticed, but I deactivated my FB acct for a while..
My goal was to make it two weeks. And now I am almost into week 4, and pretty proud of such a minor thing.
You see we were celebrating Trav’s 45th b-day at the end of February. When certain people made comments about me being the FB queen. And how they know everything we do, because I put it all on FB. And I have no idea why, but this really embarrassed me. I thought to myself “Well, I will just defriend them if my post annoy them”.. But than the more I thought about it, I had to admit that I have a serious habit. I literally set my alarm for 20 minutes before I get out of bed so I can look thru my FB, and like all my friends post and pictures. I was in “love” with Facebook, because I enjoyed keeping up with family and friends and what they were doing. It made for great conversations, or to be told yeah I know I saw it on FB. Lol


But, I also let FB control my emotions and moods. I would get my feelings hurt when I did not get many “likes” or comments on my post. Or when I did not get tagged in some people’s friendship post. Or when I would see my friends get together and know that I was not invited. So the more I thought about it, the more determined I was to try to go two weeks without it. I took it off my phone so I was not tempted to take a peek. The first week was tough. Lol

I had my phone in my hand and went to look for the app, and remembered I was on a FB Diet. And I was pretty moody about it too.. But what hurt my pride the most, is I had told my hubby that everyone would notice and wonder if I defriended them ,and I would prob get lots of text asking where I went.. Do you know by the 1st week not one person noticed.. OUCH!! Yep, big blow to my ego. But it is also what made me realize that I was not as important on FB as I thought I was..
And after some time away, I am ok with that. I have learned It’s a big distraction, and just gives us ammo to snoop and gossip about what we see. There are lots of negative post, and inappropriate pictures. And it enables people to be ok with staying to themselves and not leaving the house, but still know what everyone else is doing. I have realized, I hear from my family and friends personally more since I have not been on fb, because I actually take the initiative to make personal contact. I get to hear the latest from their mouth,.

Now I admit I still have Instagram, and a Twitter, but it is not nearly as addictive as FB has been for me.

So, I don’t know how much longer I will go without my FB acct. But when I do get back on, I am cleaning up house, and making sure I don’t let FB control my mood and actions. I suggest yall take a bit of break too. It has been oh so good for my mind and soul..

Update...

First wanted to thank each of you who said a little prayer for my baby girl on Friday..
I would like to let everyone know that this precious little girl...

Is officially a 7th grade cheerleader..
Her daddy and I are super proud of her accomplishment, and we look forward to watching her cheer at those football games.. Go Jackets..

We love you Jazzy Girl..

My Baby Girl...

It has been a long while since I have felt like blogging.
We have been quite busy in the Casa De Los Hammetts....

But I think now is the perfect time to blog..

I know you all know my Jazzy girl.
She turned 12 in January, and it makes me feel all kinds of emotions, from being super sad to being super excited at the young lady she is becoming.
 She has been working her bottom off the last couple of months, as she is preparing to try out for a basketball league this summer, and 7th grade cheerleading, and this stupid Starr Test that is coming. She is usually pretty easy going, but this has been a lot of stress on her. And it is tough as a mom to watch your children want something so bad, and not be able to help or guarantee anything.

Well, she tried out this week for the basketball, and she did not make the team. Her daddy had to come home and tell her the news, she is an alternate player. She was devastated. I literally saw her heart break. And I will admit, my heart broke for her. It is crazy that something so small can cause so much heartache. She was embarrassed, and just felt defeated. She had the choice to say forget it I don’t want to play period or to say she would take the alternate spot, go to every practice and game and know that she will not get to play at the games unless someone is sick.

Now, if it was me, I would have said “Screw it”! Yes, I am not proud of that attitude..

But after licking her wounds and crying she told us she is going to play, and show them she is as good player as the rest. And that she will get better for 7th grade basketball.

Gosh I admire this little girl of mine. Her precious little spirit lights up a room. Her smile is contagious. And when I grow up, I want to be just like her..

Now pray bloggers, that this cheerleading thing works out for her.
She is a natural cheerleader.. And she will always be my baby girl..

The Lovely Life...

Life has been crazy busy, but we are loving every minute of it.

Just a little this and that for my loving blogger followers..

I was denied approval to post a picture of this incident. But my sweet Cameron was with some friends, and playing hide and go seek in the dark. He said he was an assassin ninja because no one could see him. And when someone spotted him, he jumped up and went full blast ninja style into a big ole tree. I got that phone call at 3am, that said Cameron is ok, but he is going to need stitches. So I meet them at the ER and watch my Cam limp into the hospital and have a towel to his face, and his handsome face was jacked up. They cleaned it up, gave him shots to numb it and 4 stitches later he was all good. He is my tough little fella, not one single tear or flinch. Now about that bubble wrap and helmet..

My hard drive at work crashed on me, so after crying and whining for a couple of days. I have spent the last 2 weeks re entering 2012 invoices. I am up to the letter D! Whoohoo. I lost all my pictures, all my pre made documents. And no one felt sorry for me. Yeah tough crowd when you work with nothing but men.

I may have mentioned this little fella a couple of times.. Hee Hee But my sweet baby G celebrated his 1st birthday over the wkend. This little boy melts my heart. I am helping my little brother and sis out by keeping him overnight to help wean him off his mommy. He did so good. And Jazzy and I loved having him to spoil and just love like crazy.. I am thankful my sis trust me with her sweet baby boy.

Last year around this time is when my family was going thru a really tough time with my Grandpa. And if you followed my blog, it was all so bitter sweet when he passed away at the same time my sweet baby G was born. Well, guess what.. He did it again.. We have a new edition to our family. My cousin Brenda gave birth to a baby boy, and she named him Elijah Ovidio. He is named after his grandpa and great grandpa. Two wonderful men, and I am sure he is going to live up to his name for sure. I know my Grandpa must be proud. Congratulations Brenda, we are so proud of you! I know you will be an amazing mommy..

My Boys Sophmore Class is putting together a Live Nativity Scene. If you are in our area please stop by and help support them. I personally have never seen one, but I am super excited as this is coming together so wonderfully. We have a great group of dedicated parents and students who step up and help. My fellas are going to be one of the Wise Men and Joseph, and Jazz is going to be an Angel. Awe…

We want to wish each of you a very Merry Christmas! I pray that you are surrounded by people who you love and who love you back. I know sometimes Life can knock you flat on your face. And some days you wonder if there is ever any reason to keep on trying. I know this year has been one of the hardest years of my life. I got a wake up call, and the only reason I have made it this far is because I finally quit living life selfishly my way, and gave it all to God. We live, we make mistakes, but we learn and we move on, we Forgive ourselves!! That is a huge part And we choose to Love like Crazy.. And just thank God for the memories, and for 2nd chances.

When you hit rock bottom there is only one way to go and that is UP..

P.S. I wrote this blog on Friday morning, but could not post till tonight. I just want to say the horrible incident that happened yesterday has really rocked my world. My heart aches for those precious children and most of all those parents who lost their babies. Just agree in prayer that God surrounds them with his precious Love and Comfort and Peace.. A parent should never have to experience such tragedy..

Sowing and Reaping...

Just Sitting back,.Being very quiet,..
Watching Everyone and Everything around me has really given me a new insight on life.


Have to shamefully admit I have always been a fan of Karma, but I have to swallow my pride and admit that I am being given a big ole dose of Karma..

For years, I have been part of choosing sides and thinking I was better off if I just left certain people out of my life. Probably during times they were not doing things or living their life to what I thought was best. Have had blown up arguments over politics, religion, and what I thought someone really meant to say or do.
Walking around pointing my fingers and judging people, and making them feel like they were probably alone.

I am sure I have made God oh so proud… (sigh)

Oh my the tables have turned, and now it is my turn to be judged, and let me tell you it totally stinks and is heartbreaking.. But with time I have gotten over myself and quit throwing a woe is me party. And have spent the last couple of weeks feeling remorse for being such a big ole bitty to certain people in my life.

The crazy thing is there have been a handful of people who have stepped up and been there for me the last couple of months.. These people have every right to dislike me, because when the tables were turned, I was a horrible person to them, and I shut them out of my life. And I have told them, that I surely don’t deserve their friendship. But they have all said the same thing to me, yeah I did hurt them, but they know my true heart, and they remember what a devoted friend I was to them over all.

How about that.. People who concentrate and remember all the good, and who don’t focus on the bad.
If they only knew how much my heart needed to hear that.. Sowing and Reaping.. Karma..

This adventure and realitly of life has really given me the desire to be the light for people.
I want to shine for those who are going thru a dark time in their life.

For the people who are beat down, and have no hope, I want to be that email, or text or phone call that says, yeah your situation stinks big time, but you got this.

God is good, and he believes in restoring relationships, and lives.

His grace and mercy has saved me.. And I am thankful for the trials and judgment in life to make me realize that I had and have issues, but I am still precious and loved.

Most of all, that I deserve to be happy and to be surrounded by people who love me too..

So, LOVE!!! It should be simple.

Yet, we complicate everything. For example: we are not commanded to judge other people, gossip about them, tell everyone else what so-and-so ought to do about the problems we see in them, decide whether or not they are worthy for "certain" blessings or condemn them to a life of suffering and sorrow.

I'm so glad I don't have to make any final judgments about anyone. I just get to love them like crazy, for who they are now..

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
― Oprah Winfrey

P.S.
Happy 16th Anniversary to my Amazing and Loving Husband.. The man that has reminded me what Real, Faithful, Love really is..And how blessed I am that God sent him my way..


16th Anniversary in Oklahoma City



Guest Blogger..

Guest Blogger.. My Jazzy girl wrote this in Writing Class, and I figured how perfect to share for the month of November..


Ten Things I am Thankful For… By Jasmine

1. I am thankful for my parents. They are always there for me. They love me very much. Also, when I am sad they cheer me up. Last, but not least they gave me life..

 2. I am thankful for my cousins.

 When I am sad they know how to cheer me up! Also, they make funny noises when I get a boyfriend or I tell them who I like. My baby cousin is the cutest. I was there for his birth and he smiles when I hold him.

3. I am thankful for my teachers.
That is the most awkward thing to say. The reason why I said that is because they take time out of their day to teach us. Even when we can be not so respectful some days.!

4. I am thankful for brothers!
That is also hard to say. They can be over protective of me at some point. But, I still love them. They are always there for me. Plus they take up for me. Last but not least they make me smile.

5. I am thankful for my sister.
 That girl is one the best things in my life. She makes me smile and she loves me. Also, she is protective over me. Even though sometimes she is annoying, I could not live without her.

6. I am thankful for my granny.
My Granny is awesome. I love going shopping with her. I get to go to her house almost every other weekend. She has done a lot for me in my life. She is always there for me. I love her so much.
7. I am thankful for my grandpa.
He is the best grandpa ever. When I stay with them, he takes me to the flea market. It is awesome. Before we start looking at stuff we go get food. I get nachos with jalapeño’s and he gets fruit. We share them with each other. Also, we love to play with his dog.

8. I am thankful for my Great Grandma.
She is awesome and she has gone thru a lot. She lost her husband (my great grandpa) last year in December. Ever since then we have been able to get really close. Some days we go to eat together. I go to the doctor with her so she doesn’t go alone. She has taught me how to cook tortillas. And even though she lives with my granny now, I get to spend the night with her.

9. I am thankful for my Nanaw.
She is my dad’s mom and she is awesome. She lets me hang out with her some times.  I go with her to get her hair done. Plus, she also lost her husband. I was only 2 when he died. She always talks about him and I just listen. So my daddy and brothers and I get to help take care of her land. We mow and fix things when it breaks.

10. I am thankful for my life. I love my life. I have the best life. I have people who care for me and love me. I have a roof over my head. I have people to  love.. I have friends and
Last but certainly not least I have God in my life.